We are sleep training LL with Weissbluth’s Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. Though I’ve never read Ferber, I think of Weissbluth as being a kind of Ferber light: basically the same theory, maybe a bit more namby pamby waffling in the Weissbluth model. Both seem to feel that just letting the baby cry (Weissbluth calls it “extinction,” a word choice that I find alarming) until the baby shuts up and goes to sleep, is the best and quickest route, though Weissbluth allows for other options even if he doesn’t really recommend them.
Jeez, sleep training! What a bitch. But LL had gotten into a routine whereby she would successfully avoid sleeping nearly the whole day (minus a few fifteen-minute-long quick hitter naps), and then by about 5:00 pm she was so overtired and unreasonable that I’d have no choice but to put her down for the night several hours early. After a few night wakings, she would wake up for the day at 4:00 am and we would begin the whole nightmare over again — and this after her establishing expectations by sleeping in two six-to-seven hour stretches by 8 weeks old! Four month sleep regression — it’s not a myth.
Anyway, whereas Mini would scream his head off for a half hour, LL generally will only do it a few minutes. But, then she will wake up after only sleeping for a half hour or so, and start screaming, even while she is rubbing her eyes and clearly still tired. I fight going in there for as long as I can, hoping that she will go back to sleep. Usually this doesn’t last very long, and I crack and go in there, where I am greeted by LL’s exaggerated sigh of relief coupled with a single tear running her cheek (which Mr. Right-Click likened to the old commercial with the American Indian crying over the state of pollution.)
[Insert joke about girls being more dramatic than boys here.]
In short: I hate it. But she’s getting better with her naps, and I’m hoping to have her sleeping past 5 am any day now! [Yawn.]