On her post, “Two Lives,” I left the following comment for Sweetney, which she is not going to publish:
I have gone back and forth about commenting about this, but I feel compelled to say something, since nobody else will.
So call me a troll (again), but this is not cool.
It’s fantastic that you’re happy, I’m glad for you. Everybody deserves to be happy. But this is the end of a marriage because of adultery, no? And a marriage where kids are involved, I’m assuming, since you couldn’t be with him on Christmas.
So, pretty much a crappy way to let the wife read about the inevitability of love in a public context like that. In my experience, shame serves a positive social function.
Full disclosure: My parents divorced after a similar situation, so I realize this is a hot-button issue for me. But there are times when you see something happening and you know it is wrong, and you can choose to say nothing or you can choose to speak up. For me, this is one of those times. Shame on everyone who continues to encourage this kind of behavior in an ostensible member of our community. You can quote me on that.
She will not be publishing the comment, I suppose, because she doesn’t want to “engage” with me.