There’s no real reason for this post except to say that LL has her first Lakers jersey.

Except, it’s really a crawler, but you don’t really refer to things like a baby’s “first Lakers crawler.”

The number is Pau Gasol’s, and this is not accidental but it’s also not what would be my first choice. (It is definitely not Mr. Right-Click’s first choice, either, since he refers to Gasol alternately as being such a “weak Euro” or “YES! OLE PAELLA!” depending on his mood and how well Gasol is playing that night.) The thing is, they only make kids and baby jerseys in a few players’ numbers, and I refuse to allow my child to wear a Kobe Bryant jersey until he/she is old enough to request it specifically. My feelings on Kobe Bryant are complex and I need not go into them at length here, suffice to say that, while I immensely respect his basketball skills I have questions about his character that preclude me from having my children wear his number without problematizing the matter a bit.

Which brings me to Mini, who is now old enough to ask for the Kobe jersey and indeed has done so. Now, I could have gone into the problems I have with this but this would involve me discussing things with Mini that he is light years away from understanding or even roughly conceptualizing. So instead I grudgingly accepted this fate as I had agreed to do so many years ago. I still wince whenever I hear him shooting baskets with his friends and saying, “I’m Kobe, you be Gasol.”

Life is complicated once they become too big for Trumpette socks with bows on them.

  1. Both the best and the worst part about writing every day is that it takes away your self-consciousness.
  2. Girl babies allow you to put lotion on them after their baths. Or at least mine does. This is novel.
  3. While we are on the topic of babies, here’s an observation: the default assumption seems to be that any given baby one encounters in the world is a boy. Perhaps this is due to a general lack of hair on babies, but that is not really my concern. Anyway, I find that unless I dress LL in pink, people tend to assume she is a boy and so ask, “How old is he?” (And before you ask, LL has a pretty feminine face so I’m not worried that it’s because she actually looks like a boy.) This is obviously not a big deal because LL cannot understand yet, but it strikes me as one of those instances in which you can see the default sexism that serves as a foundation for this society, e.g. a child is assumed to be male until somehow modified, and then it is female (kind of like the English language). I don’t expect this to change any time soon, but still it bugs, particularly when you consider that the way children develop into adult sexual beings is much more of an ebb and flow kind of a thing, with younger children sharing a certain element of androgyny that I’m not sure we need to banish so quickly. And also when you consider that I don’t really like pink all that much.
  4. That said, I find myself dressing LL in pink an awful lot.
  5. Because here’s the thing: I can get all idealistic about how things should be, but I still want my daughter to be recognized as a girl. Kind of the same theory is at work as when I complain about the fact that the snacks parents hand out after Mini’s basketball games are full of junk, but then when it’s my turn to bring snacks I get junk too. Because I’m not going to be the one mom who doesn’t bring junk: that mom sucks.
  6. Yes, Mini is playing basketball now, and it is about as hilarious as you are imagining, though he is actually quite talented as an outside shooter.
  7. FYI, Kids who play basketball in the 4-6 age range do not pass to each other as a rule.
  8. So, say you teach your kid to pass. And every time he brings the ball down the court, he passes, just like the starting point guard he will no doubt one day be. Only thing is, that pass is the last time he touches the ball for the whole quarter. So then you are faced with a moral dilemma: do I teach my kid to do the right thing, or do I teach him to adapt to the situation at hand, viz. to hog the ball when he gets it because that is what everyone else does, and does he not deserve to shoot the ball as well?
  9. It seems like character gets formed in these little moments of shoulds versus dids.
  10. I have some projects I am going to be giving more time to in the coming months. Blogging will definitely be a part of these projects but I’m not sure how that will play out just yet.
  11. The best blogs, in my experience, focus on people’s most passionate interests. Sometimes these interests change. I think what I’m trying to say is that I’m in the midst of a change. I’m not really sure where that’s going to take me, but I hope some people will stick around and find out.

 

We are sleep training LL with Weissbluth’s Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. Though I’ve never read Ferber, I think of Weissbluth as being a kind of Ferber light: basically the same theory, maybe a bit more namby pamby waffling in the Weissbluth model. Both seem to feel that just letting the baby cry (Weissbluth calls it “extinction,” a word choice that I find alarming) until the baby shuts up and goes to sleep, is the best and quickest route, though Weissbluth allows for other options even if he doesn’t really recommend them.

Jeez, sleep training! What a bitch. But LL had gotten into a routine whereby she would successfully avoid sleeping nearly the whole day (minus a few fifteen-minute-long quick hitter naps), and then by about 5:00 pm she was so overtired and unreasonable that I’d have no choice but to put her down for the night several hours early. After a few night wakings, she would wake up for the day at 4:00 am and we would begin the whole nightmare over again — and this after her establishing expectations by sleeping in two six-to-seven hour stretches by 8 weeks old! Four month sleep regression — it’s not a myth.

Anyway, whereas Mini would scream his head off for a half hour, LL generally will only do it a few minutes. But, then she will wake up after only sleeping for a half hour or so, and start screaming, even while she is rubbing her eyes and clearly still tired. I fight going in there for as long as I can, hoping that she will go back to sleep. Usually this doesn’t last very long, and I crack and go in there, where I am greeted by LL’s exaggerated sigh of relief coupled with a single tear running her cheek (which Mr. Right-Click likened to the old commercial with the American Indian crying over the state of pollution.)

[Insert joke about girls being more dramatic than boys here.]

In short: I hate it. But she’s getting better with her naps, and I’m hoping to have her sleeping past 5 am any day now! [Yawn.]